Ne este intotdeauna usor sa-ti gasesti cuvintele atunci cand un parinte iti spune ca al sau copil sufera de autism. In astfel de situatii, cel mai important este sa ghidezi acel parinte spre o clinica de terapie unde copilul sa beneficieze de un tratament adecvat nevoilor sale. Iata cateva expresii/cuvinte pe care un parinte al carui copil sufera de autism NU ar dori sa le auda.

“Nu pare a avea autism.”

Un astfel de comentariu poate induce un sentiment neplacut parintelui intrucat acesta poate sa creada ca fiul sau este oarecum diferit. Iar asta nu este adevarat. Cu sau fara autism copilul trebuie tratat la fel, ca orice individ in societate. Nu trebuie marginalizat sau supus vreunui comportament special din partea celor din jur.

“Ati incercat metode naturiste?”

Autismul si abilitatea de a cauta pe internet nu sunt intotdeauna o combinatie ideala.Trebuie stiut ca in asemenea cazuri nu exista tratament homeopat, ci doar interventie de specialitate. Autismul este o tulburare, nu o boala, deci nu exista vreun leac special, iar daca ar fi existat, nu credeti ca s-ar fi aflat pana acum?!

“Nu stiu cum va descurcati cu copilul?”

Nu cred ca parintii ar dori sa auda de la cineva vorbe precum “esti un parinte formidabil!” sau “Dumnezeu iti da pentru ca stie cat poti sa duci.” Parintii au cu adevarat superputeri pentru a gasi motivatia de a lupta pentru copiii lor si fac tot ce le sta in putinta pentru a gasi cele mai bune mijloace pentru a imbunatati calitatea vietii copilului.

“Imi pare rau!”

O astfel de expresie este cu adevarat dureroasa pentru un parinte. El nu are nevoie de compatimire, ci de un sfat, o directie sau de o speranta de care sa se agate pentru a-si ajuta copilul. Nici copilului nu-I foloseste la nimic ca cei din jur sa arate compasiune, ci pentru el conteaza sa fie ajutat si tratat astfel incat sa poata avea o sansa la o viata mai buna.

Ceea ce ar fi cu adevarat de ajutor pentru un parinte al carui copil sufera de autism ar fi ca cel cu care vorbeste sa nu arate mila sau sa puna intrebari neadecvate, ci sa se arate interesat de problema prezentata, un prim pas ar fi o simpla intrebare: “Cum pot sa va fiu de ajutor?”

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It’s not always easy to know what to say when someone mentions their kid has ASD—these pointers will help keep your autism talk on track.

He doesn’t look autistic.”

A variation on “he looks normal,” this kind of comment presumes you know what autism, or for that matter normal, looks like—which you don’t. Autism or ASD is referred to as a spectrum disorder for a reason: No two people with ASD look or behave in exactly the same way. Individuals with autism are just that—individuals—and should always be treated as such.

Have you tried green tea?”

Or a gluten-free diet or floating in a hyperbaric chamber or, go ahead and fill in the blank… Autism and the ability to Google are not always an ideal match. It’s worth keeping in mind, before you send us that link to the latest online miracle cure, autism is a disorder, not a disease. There is no cure. And if there were, don’t you think we might be the first to know?

I don’t know how you do it.”

A variation on similarly backhanded compliments like “God doesn’t give us more than we can handle” or “you must be such a great parent.” The implication here is that parents, too, have superpowers. What we have, in fact, is a tough job and the persistent hope we can keep doing the best we can.

“I’m so sorry!”

Unfortunately, some people have a knack for making even a seemingly harmless “how are you doing?” sound like the end of the world. Besides, parents don’t want pity. Neither do our kids.

“What can I do to help?” is a good place to start. Just make sure your offer is direct and genuine. And, incidentally, don’t let lists like this scare you off—even if it can be difficult to know what to say, even if your foot does occasionally end up in your mouth, feel free to check in on how we’re doing and let us guide the conversation.

10 things NOT to say to the parents of a kid with autism

Sursa: https://www.todaysparent.com/family/special-needs/things-not-to-say-to-the-parents-of-a-kid-with-autism/